Soulmate I guess as long as you stay at this site I'll find all of you. I really have a problem believing but forgave her and weve been together another 20 yrs now and have 15 grand children hasnt ever really bothered me but about 3 yrs ago it hit me like of bolt of lightning out of nowhere and I cant get that night out of my mind, keep obsessing over what they might have done and how they spent the 4 or 5 hours that they were together outside the venue that night. Better safe than sorry. What is he supposed to do with this information? I'll inform the vicar, you cancel the cake, yeh? Then he kissed me, and I kissed him back. It was just a kiss. No, if it's sensible debate, based on *facts* rather than wishful thinking, that's fine. We started kissing again and he took my T shirt off and I briefly started kissing his body. I have never done anything like this before and truly would never again. Other way around. :(. The short answer to your question, for this BPD is: No, I don't feel guilty. So if life hands you lemons, don't HIDE them where they could one day trip you up or cause a rotten stink. I cannot tell you how much I love my boyfriend and how shocked I am about this. You might feel guilty about it the next day, but it wasnt a big deal. I think they all count as cheating and I'm not sure it's necessary to make a distinction. Answer (1 of 7): As you have not mentioned your gender, i am assuming you are a girl. Talk About Family, Marriage and Relationships, My magic wand would remove shame from sexuality for all! If you are separated, you aren't doing anything wrong. At least I'll know I've done my bit to the very best of my capability. I am heartbroken but told him I understand that I couldnt be with someone who doesnt trust me. But you can control whether you nurture the crush or acknowledge it and move on. ;-D. Ahhhh you're back! You can confess to your significant other and accept the consequences, knowing that you might hurt your partner by confessing. He deserves to know. Almost a year ago I began university, my boyfriend and I decided we would do long distance and we are still together now. It sounds simple, but if you think you know how to apologize effectively, you are likely wrong. The straight women in the girls-french kiss-girls videowere all shocked at how gentle and non-aggressive female kissers were, in comparison to guys. Iam a bisexual man and kissing a female is a different feeling then with a male. reader, Angel-lee+, writes (25 October 2005): A I've been Dating a married Albanian man for 6 months already and NOT proud of it.Just wanna share my, Hurt my ex girlfriend, feel guilty and don't know what to do. Your choice, as ever. She confessed to loving the experience and enjoyed the thrill knowing she had her husbands permission and he was watching her. With the other woman just across the room! There is more going on. Me, I can't believe committing adultery isn't an actual crime yet. But we have spoken since about it a lot. I feel so bad since then. Since he felt there was an attraction with you two. I practise what I preach, me. Not sure how anyone can say they're "certain" he doesn't need to know, given the fact that he made his own standards and expectations perfectly clear on that score, back when he himself was the 'victim' of a come-on. Translation: Stuff moral taboos, my wanton self-gratification urge is more important than any implement for world peacebut I'm a nice guy, no, really I am.) 2. I believe in complete honesty, 100%. Boyfriend kissed another girl while drunk? Have a happy day every one. If he wants to keep her as a "friend", complete access is a must. I could list so many reasons why, but instead Ill just list a few. reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2007): A When we went to bed that night, I started crying because I realized what had happened and I felt confused and guilty all at the same time. But you sounded like you were willing to take it farther with him,and risk it all. We were going through an awkward time in the relationship and I was craving the attention and simplicity of this guy. I also could not fathom if you were ACTUALLY being serious or just having a laugh at her expense..alone in your tracky bottoms in your living room. Its hard to know what to say, especially if youre fuzzy about what happened. Hi SoulMate! :p Maybe you didnt deliberately set out to kiss him or her, but you feel guilty about the kiss because you realize you always wanted to kiss that person, but were afraid to kiss because you harbored hidden feelings for that person. Your Drinking Behaviour. 07/12/2015 22:05. I work in hospitality, so I can't change departments, but I can change my shift pattern. Loyal Girl sorry to hear about your situation. Houston, despite we started out as just friends, we now have PROOF that we have utilised a mechanism for cultivating love and respect, enough to now remain together til death do us part. Hey all. What are you going to do, then? What would people say if she'd slept with someone else? We all should know by now that alcohol affects our judgment and that it can make us less inhibited and cause us to behave in ways in which we never would behave while sober. My opinion, fwiw, is that what you did was not that bad. Because telling him something that you regret and will never do again is doing exactly that. IAMHIM (person claiming to be an unregistered passer-by), Wow, you really do want a baby, don't you. I dont believe in innocent kiss. Okay. I told him later that I thought it was misunderstood and apologized. Are you dreaming about another man? Here's what it really means 3. If you kissed a stranger, your significant other might just react by laughing or by telling you it's okay. I'm taking it day by day. We have only been seeing each other for the past two months and I dont want his mind racing with bad thoughts. Which probably makes you wonder why I came here in the first place. reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2005): A I think you already knew what you wanted to do, your husband was not home, saw an opportunity, and wanted to use being drunk as a cover story. Take action instead of ruminating in guilt. Drop it in CASUALLY, as part of general chit-chat, like it's no big thing (because if it's no biggie to you then that must mean it isn't and wasn't any threat to him), and in such a way as draws similarities with his own past incident. Tl;dr: why do I feel guilty after ending things with a guy who grabbed my ass during our first kiss? It's not just a guy thing anymore,women are in it too. I am giving him space to think. I had only taken three years of piano lessons while still a teenager, and here I was in my late 40s studying piano again. I kissed another guy when drunk but can't remember?! In Jung's theory, the anima makes up the totality of the unconscious feminine psychological qualities that a man possesses and the animus the masculine ones possessed by a woman. 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If you want to know the why's, you're going to have to be willing to hear the darkest part of what makes me, ME. The guilt may be strong because you doubt yourself right now and were surprised by your actions. And yes I do still believe either directly or indirectly, mouth to mouth, tongue swapping French kissing caressing lead to sex. It sounds like you are projecting your own fears onto him. If you we're my girlfriend and it was years ago and never happened again I would not want to know. Before delving into my own personal story, Id like to address this subject generally. I felt a mixture of excitement and flattery and nerves. I Feel Guilty About Kissing Someone | Relationship Talk Unless you literally were so drunk that you had no idea what you were doing, it's probably better for you to take responsibility for and own your behavior instead of saying "I got drunk" as an excuse. Then I ordered taxis, woke up the other girl and we left. Cheaters remorse. Kissed another man four years ago and NOW feeling guilty. I've noticed that other threads here haven't lasted very long. I merely stated from the above that lips are a part of foreplay. Because your significant other doesnt fully believe that you just kissed this person because you were intoxicated. Your boyfriend may love you so much that he believes you won't repeat the cheating ever again. True mistakes get owned and rectified. Why don't I feel guilty for kissing another guy? - Quora I too stand by my post as well-doing what is right as it relates to this issue is hardly ever the path taken. People who are qualified to label themselves good don't keep secrets from the one person in the world they tacitly vowed never to keep secrets from, particularly when the information is the victim's right to know (in order to continue to emotionally protect themselves, particularly whenever their partner's showing they're currently unable to execute their duty of helping them do so 'right to know' because where there's a problem in the relationship as, with the mere aid of the pigpen gate-unlocker called alcohol, causes behaviour counter to the relationship's chances of continued success, then - AS a team - it takes both members' addressing it together for the solution/outcome to possess any real authenticity or permanent efficacy. Is Flirting Cheating? 5 Signs That It Is - Psych Central Boyfriend kissed another guy at a gay bar with me for my fantasy, i And has also started crying for no reason when things are going well between us. Are you sure you didnt have sex with him/her?